age is just a number

i met up with a good friend, two weeks back. the friend has found a gf. good for him. i always got this aura from him that he is lonely. glad that he has someone for company. as conversation flows, he commented that the parents are a little opposing towards this relationship.

my first reaction: why? oh, the girl is a few years his senior. hmm. but it is not that much really. i guess the parents are annoyed. i can see where the parents are coming from. they might think that they girl is at the age suitable for marriage while their son has only started working for a year. i feel like telling the parents, "do you know how hard it is to find one person you like nowadays?" the parents mentioned any girl will do as long as she is local (malaysian) and younger than him. the fact that the girl breaks the two rules makes them hard to accept. i wonder why they object to begin with. my friend used to have a gf who is younger and local and they objected. now he found another, still object. haih... life... life... it is hard to please everyone.

luckily my friend is standing on the positive side. he believes that the parents will eventually accept her as she is. i have yet to see her but to me, it doesn't matter. as long as my friend is happy. that's all that matters. she will be the one walking the rest of his life. the least they can do is give their blessings.

i wish him all the best and the little devil in me hopes that he achieves success because i think being defiant in love and obtaining acceptance in the end is so much more romantic than the plain old vanilla, non-challenging relationship.

wish him the best of luck, and partially myself too in finding one.

age is just a number, really.

how do you restart a conversation

i have found out news about my friends around me for these few days. some moderately important news. but at one point, i start to think. since when i had started to lose touch with them. it used to have an automatic update from them. since i begin assuring other people's acounts, i have less such update. probably the fault is on my part for not taking the initiative.

in my defense, i always thought if our friendship is strong enough, this thing is a friend would normally do. perhaps i am wrong la. maybe it is time for me to try catching up on them one per day. that way, i will feel better.

i am now trying to devise a non-awkward way to start a conversation to friends who i have lost touch with since high school and university days. will it be just a hi or what have you been up to? or should i start by teasing. i don't know. my ability to converse has been impaired by the fact of number viewing days in and out. time to sharpen my communication skill again.

Maybe I should send a card with this instead.

blogger feels it is timely to update from friends for real, and definitely not through the blue wall updates.

what are you waiting for?

colleagues were happily chatting. me: happily eavesdropping. uncouth yet given the circumstances where all of us sat on a big round, meeting table, hence my above action.

colleague A: J, have you been in a relationship before?
colleague B: Nope.
colleague C: Are you very picky is it or not ready? You are not looking for one is it?
colleague B: No, I am constantly looking. Just that I don't date someone just because the person chases after me.
colleague C: I admire your courage. Don't worry you are still young. If you are like 31, me and B will be thinking what are you waiting for?

A thought struck my mine too. What am I waiting for? I am not old but I am not that young either. Good question. Makes me wonder the rest of the day. Further conversation reveals that colleague B is waiting for a guy who she likes and the guy has not dated before. Ooohhhh.... She knows it is impossible but she is one hell of hopeless romantic girl but colleague B declared she is just too rational.

I, on the other hand, just listened. Hmmm.....