dit ngan keng

it is always reassuring to know the people surrounding you. for me, i get to know people first by observing their behaviour. in short, i don't trust people that easily. not when it comes to friendship. i would think everyone is different for yourself and at such, it is imperative to get to know others.

by doing so, i actually have an impression who my friends are, how they are likely to behave and the responses i will get when asking questions. to me, this is fun. you get to guess your friends. throughout my past experience, some are predictable, some are plain unreadable and others plain annoying to get to know. but i don't simply put a label based on appearance. that would be unfair right?

there is this one time. the girl who used to sit beside me in class. i honestly thought that she is quite a nice person. when i know how she will use her relationship for her convenience, i was appalled. wth. maybe i really "dit ngan keng" for the very first time. i try to justify her actions. one, it has nothing to do with me. two, we are still friends because whatever she did to her boyfriends is no concern of mine. but as a person with principle, i think it is morally wrong and romantically disastrous altogether.

i got to know this through my best friend. ohhh, i have 100% trust on this friend. because we are good friends since a long time.

and then comes another story. false accusation being thrown to another friend. let's use A,B and C for simplicty. A, B and C are my friends. A is a good friend of mine for many years. then B and C get along and become a couple through A's help. but a while later, it is said that C thinks that A is trying to get between both of them.

in my opinion, is there a reason A wants to be the third party if A helps you to get B? it doesn't make sense. then comes my observing behaviour motion being at play. throughout my contact and experience with A, A is a straightforward and honest person. A will throw whatever on the mind at your front, not the back. what i am wondering is, will A react differently towards love than friendship. i know A for years. wouldn't that count for a single thing? i beg not to differ. i told my good friend, i would stand behind A if someone wants to vouch for her honesty. but can i really say that when A is a third party.

there you go, blogger's dilemma. but he knows none of it is his business. he might as well carry on with his life as an auditor. in life, don't get it twisted. the blogger knows enough not to step a shoe in this kind of relationship, not that he is in a relationship anyway.