this is serious

i believe that at times i am being misconstrued as not a serious person because i love to laugh, a lot and quite loudly. i know it myself. but at times, when i talk, please listen because what i say might be serious at times. and this time around i am being serious.

today, i do not feel like talking actually. after becoming the emcee for the event 'mamak night' today, i am surprised i still have the energy to talk. but after hearing an incident from a close friend of mine, i don't feel like talking. not because i don't want to, but i feel disgusted.

you know, i began signalling some issues crawling up within the society when some of the girls started crying. one cry because she thought she did badly for her performance, that is understandable. another cry because of stress. that is is also acceptable. but this last one cry for a reason i found totally worth crying. she feel sexually harassed.

i totally kept quiet at first, trying to think quickly what should i say to her. as a very close friend of mine, i find such thing is very disheartening. not because she is my friend, not because she is my close friend, but i believe because she needs respect for herself and stand tall for being a woman.

i find it sickening that this guy who has the guts to do it so publicly as there is a witness. but the girl wants to remain anonymous though i offered her a solution to bring up this issue for the next meeting. i respect her as a friend not to disclose in details but i find myself dealing with the issue more maturely by discussing the issue with my vice president. not to find fault, but to come up with an amicable solution.

to be personal, i actually hate that guy. he seldom contribute, always lost when the society needs him, and has the bravery to say that i am not doing that well in the organisation of the event process. fine, i actually can tolerate that because i do not wish to listen to someone who loves to point out mistake instead of giving better solution and helping around. i learn that there is a lot of people in this world and some is just there to bring you down. he is definitely one of them.

by doing such indecent acts to my friend, my hatred towards him built up. to not cause any embarrassment or being seen as trying to cause a scene, i hope that my vice president will deal with this problem.

everyone might think i am making mountain out of a molehill. but i am not, another guy saw it. and there is another victim who told the guy who saw it. i think sexual harassment is a big issue. you can brush it aside but i urge you to learn to know this issue well. you might say this will not happen to you as a guy or you can say it won't happen to me as a girl. think carefully, you might have a daughter in the future. and your mother is definitely a woman. to that guy, how would you feel if your mother is being treated this way? if another guy ask your mother to go back with him? even as joke, i can't sense any humour in it at all. and he did touch inappropriately. if i knew then and there, you would have been given a punch. this i promise you.

i hope that telling her to take it as a life experience and learn to say NO to the guy the next time is the right thing to do. i keep telling her to calm yourself down after crying. if you can come through this time, you will definitely have grown up. i am doing the right thing? i am not sure, but i can say that i have done my part to console her, give her advice and try to joke with her to cheer up. i have done my best for her. i hope she is feeling better now.

blogger feels that life sucks sometimes and this time around, he just seem to unable to suck it up because this is serious.