in the name of love

it is ironic that the subject marriage comes to mind when exam is so close. tuesday to be exact. the other day, i was having lunch with a friend. suddenly, i asked, "when do you think you will get married?" he replied he will do that when he knows the right one arrives but he noted that he believes that one should not date too long because if not, all the magic will be lost. i was =O why? isn't dating the fun before marriage. what he said was true as well. if you think marriage means the end of fun, then you are probably wrong. okay la, for a person with zero relationship with anyone before, i am not in anyway qualify to say anything.

all this while, i keep thinking. why do one has to get married? i was quite firm when i told my mum i might not consider marriage as the path i will take in the future. i get a vehement no. she said, what will happen to you when you get old. who will take care of you? i was wondering, if the reason i get married is to have someone take care of me, isn't it kind of selfish? and the thought brings me to another thinking. if everyone gets married because everyone is doing it. what is the reason for those who get married then? to not to be lonely. for me, this reason is plain silly. if the reason of getting married is to avoid loneliness, i think you are in for the wrong reason.

i know some friends who just get into relationship because they cannot stand being alone =.= serious issue, my friend. i thought at some point in our lives, everyone deals with loneliness.

if the reason being for love, i am intrigued. how you know she is the one? in the first place, the eyes make the selection for you. she has to be of some eye catching and good figure. isn't it discriminating to others? your eyes already making the choice for you. so how can you tell me you love one if you are drawn physically to begin with. or is it because the experience that you have together is the thing that brings love into the picture. i think this is what most people define love as. it is what you do with the significant other. i believe those who fall in love with the eyes are plain shallow. haha.... i am actually shallow as well. the girl must be humourous, tall and beautiful. oh, it is better if she has no temper and is able to challenge whatever thinking i have and most IMPORTANTLY independent. i guess i am not asking too much, am i?

the blogger feels that the question is already answered with his current status. who needs a significant other? you just need to cope with the thought that if getting married is just another stage of life cycle without thinking the reason why, he believes it is more wrong than being single. have you wondered the life keeps existing and existing until...... when does the point stops? blogger thinks why bother thinking of dating if he is not thinking of marriage. it only complicates stuff.